While we applaud them for getting themselves out there, a person who describes their status as “newly single” or “ready for a new relationship after an amicable divorce” is going to be a better choice.
We are all familiar with the ways people typically describe themselves in online dating profiles and the list of features they seek from potential dates.
However, research suggests that we may be able to "read between the lines" and tell more about someone from reading their profile, over and above what the profile actually says.
Part of a research project by Andrew Fiore and colleagues (Fiore, Taylor, Zhong, Mendelsohn and Chesire, 2010) involved an analysis of dating profile self-descriptions written by males and females.
Unfortunately, she ignored some of the language within his “about me” section that talked about looking for someone to explore the city with, noting that he was “fine” if it leads to something more!
Typically (and this is especially true of those who are dating online) men will say what they mean and mean what they say.
Males were 58 percent of the sample, and the average age of people on the site was 41 for males and 42 for females.
I remember a client who was so surprised that the guy she was dating told her he wasn’t looking for a relationship and just wanted to have “fun.” When she looked back at his profile after they’d stopped dating, she checked the “looking for” section and it actually said he was looking for a long-term “relationship.” So, where did she go wrong?It is difficult to capture the myriad of personality characteristics, histories, personal attributes, likes and dislikes, and prior disappointments that describes everyone, in a few short paragraphs.How does one summarize a life of experiences in an interesting and attractive presentation when you have no idea who is on the other end?In their analysis of profile descriptions, they focused on the categories of words that evolutionary psychology might suggest would be important (e.g.Since online dating began, many of my patients have shared dating profiles of potential relationship partners with me.