How to write effective online dating messages

I tell all my single girlfriends to give online dating a try. Your inbox will fill with notes from 19-year-olds in the ‘burbs, 40-somethings who find your taste in music “refreshing,” addled idiots writing “id fck u,” and a handful of age-appropriate, nice-looking guys who can string some sentences together and like to cook.

You set up a profile, pick some cute photos, write something witty about the things that you love (Beyonce, Hillary Clinton, Battlestar Galactica), list some books you like, and then sit back, kick your feet up, and wait for the messages to roll in.

I tell all my single guy friends to watch out for online dating.

It is a sad, soul-crushing place where good guys go to die a slow death by way of ignored messages and empty inboxes.

Sometimes, they lie about their appearances to hide their identity as well.

Others lie when they don’t want to be discovered because they’re planning something sketchy.

You can always check out the normal places to meet people (bars, clubs, church, mutual friends, supermarket, organizations, etc.).

But, as great as those stats sound, online dating is also utterly time consuming and competitive.Ok Cupid, an online dating site with over 3.5 million active users, taps into the massive stats that are collected in its server.On its blog Ok Trends, which has attracted over 1 million unique visitors, the site makes intriguing observations about user behavior.Without further ado, here is the quick list of the top five dating sites in South Africa. A buddy of mine told me about a website called Afro Introductions, so I signed up for a subscription and used it with a lot of success during the year that I lived in Johannesburg.I also used their popular Brazilian-based site, Brazilcupid.com, when I was in Brazil.